A Letter to the Mom Mourning a Loss

Hey Mama,

Mother’s Day can stir up a lot of different emotions. For some of us that means thinking about what should’ve been. Loss looks different for all of us and unfortunately more women carry the burden of loss than we are aware of. I will never forget my first miscarriage. I miscarried in January 2020 and would have been due around the same time as one of my sister-in-laws. As Mother’s Day neared I felt strong and thought I would be just fine. Then I remember getting together with my sister-in-laws and as we all greeted each other one of them whispered into my ear “Happy Mother’s Day”. I just about crumbled right there on the spot and although I held it together for the most part, I couldn’t help but be overwhelmed with a sense of realization that Mother’s Day is also for the women who didn't get to keep their babies earth-side. I wasn’t expecting to be recognized as a mother and it was one of the most bittersweet moments of my life. There are so many stories of loss that are bottled up within us and Mother’s Day can be hard. I hope you feel encouraged to find a safe person to open up to and lean on during this season. There can be beauty in loss, it changes your perspective and gives you this deeper appreciation for the babies you do have or the miracle babies that are on the way. If you know somebody who has experienced loss, take some time to recognize them and make them feel seen. That moment with my sister-in-law had a huge positive impact on my healing journey, you could very well be that person for someone too.

Sincerely,

A Fellow Mama